Blending Families

So, i have an almost 13 year old. He gave me permission to use his name, so yay! When Corban was born, we asked Chad to be his Godfather. Of course, he said yes! I met him when Corban was 8 months old. When we fell in love, I wondered how blending our family would work. What would Corban call Chad? Would Justin be okay with it? How would we explain polyamory to him. At that time, he was just 2 almost 3 years old.

We just let life play itself out. Sometimes, Corban calls him Chad, sometimes, Dad 2, we left it up to him. To think we were so worried about what he’d call his step father and how that would affect things. Glad that worry is gone.

So, now we blend families. Chad’s family and Justin’s family to Corban. Corban now has 5 grandparents, no they are not polyamorous. Justin’s mom and dad, Chad’s mom, dad, and step mom. He also now has 2 aunts and an uncle. We just try to help him remember aunt/uncle so and so, and grandma/grandpa so and so when addressing them. He is still shy since he just gained extra family last year, but we let him go at his pase.I mean, he was 11 when Chad came out to his family, so there is that.

Many people say that Corban would be so confused because we’re polyamorous. He just said as long as nobody is hurting nobody, and I’m not being abandoned for a partner, date who you like. Well, make them legal, not ave drug problems, and remind them I’m not their property. That’s how it should be too. We let Corban form that relationship with Chad, itwasn’t forced. It’s rude to force a relationship on children. That’s not how we roll.

Chad and I are trying for a baby. We lost our son Solomon Juan Blanco at 17 weeks last year. We named him Solomon because it means peace. We needed some peace in our lives after losing him. Weare trying for our rainbow baby. Corban wants a sister lol not a brother he says. However, we all know that’s not how that works. You get whatever the universe decides for you, and you just learn to smile.

When we have Z if a girl or C if a boy, we’ll let him/her decided what to call Justin. Baby will be given his/her fathers last name because that’s respectful. Corban says hurry up. Lol I keep telling him it don’t work that way. I can’t just snap my fingers, and pregnancy happens. That’s crazy.

So, this what blending a polyamorous family looks like for us. I have the best in-laws ever that I wouldn’t trade for anything. Just to think I was so nervous to meet them last year. I still can’t believe its only been a year since I’ve know them. It seems longer.